The more you try to understand gender and sexuality the more difficult they can be to simply define. Innate and performative. Fluid and constant. Located somewhere at intersection between identity, desire, and power. Highly individual. Socially embedded and shaped. A unique constellation in a vast universe. 

Gender You may be struggling to with social pressures. A feeling that you don't fit  .  You might feel comfortable with your gender and sexuality and just want to focus on other things.  wanting to focus on issues